boundary n. (pl. -ies) a line marking the limits of an area, territory, etc.*
Where do you begin and end?
Because people are interdependent, everything in our experience depends on the shape of our relationships to others. Deciding where to draw personal boundaries and when to push them can be an additional cause of distress for those of us trying to figure out where we begin and end.
Two of the most important things to learn in early recovery are when to say yes and when to say no.
Just for today, say yes to your own needs. Get help if you need it. Say no to shame. You are human.
Just for today, say yes to a break from the excessive demands of others. Say no to guilt. You still care. But you are now doing your part by learning to care for yourself. In time, you will be more prepared to give.
Creating my recovery is the best thing I can do for myself, and for others. Just for today, that is my first priority.
*The Canadian Oxford Compact Dictionary
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